self harm help
We know that it’s vital that you and your whole family get the right support at the right time when a child or young person is struggling with self harming.
What is Self Harm?
Self-harm is when somebody injures or hurts themselves on purpose.
It can be a way some people cope when they are overwhelmed or are in emotional pain.
Self harming can make some people feel like they are relieving an unbearable tension or as a way to show how they feel.
Sometimes people feel as if it's a way of punishing themselves.
Self harm can be a cry for help.
The Sky Badger team have been working tirelessly to gathering the very best self harm and mental health charities available to help you. This is where you'll find out about what help and support is available to you both nationally and locally.
Many of these charities and organisations also support family members and friends too. You can find advice, information, counselling, helplines and much, much more.
Things to look out for if you’re worried about your child
- Do they have unexplained cuts or bruises, usually on their wrists, arms, thighs and chest?
- Do they keep themselves covered up all the time?
- Are they depressed? Do they have a low mood or are they tearful?
- Does your child lack motivation or interest in anything?
- Are they suffer from self-loathing?
- Are they becoming withdrawn and not speaking to friends and family?
- Has the way they eat changed? Or have they lost or gained weight?
- Do they have signs of low self-esteem?
- Does your child blame themselves for things that aren’t their fault?
- Do they not think they're not good enough?
Why do people self-harm?
Self-harm is more common than many people realise, especially among younger people. It’s conservatively estimated that about 10% of young people self-harm at some point but people of all ages do.
Most of the time, people self harm as a way of coping with problems at school, being bullied, problems with relationships, traumas like a death in the family, or other mental health issues. When these problems build up, they can lead to anger, guilt, hopelessness and self-hatred.
Self harming can become a way to deal with pent-up feelings.
Teenage self harm & self harm in children
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Young Minds has lots of ways to help children and young people who are experiencing any kind of mental health problem. They run a range of schemes to help promote good mental health in schools across the UK as well as guidance towards more 1 to 1 support. There is also a managed service by young people for young people to be able to talk with someone who understands their problems.
You can also call the Young Minds Parent's Helpline on: 0808 802 5544 (Monday to Friday 9.30am – 4pm, free for mobiles and landlines)
Self-Harm UK is a project dedicated to young people with mental health issues and who self harm. They have a range of information and facts for both young people and parents and also ways to contact someone for help. They often signpost young people to resources local to them for the most effective outcome.
Self Injury Support helps girls and women who harm themselves (often called self-injury). They run text and email support, offer a Women’s self-injury helpline, produce information and publications about self-injury, deliver talks and self-injury training courses to professionals and support self-injury self-help groups.
Harmless support people and their families who have issues surrounding self harm in the UK with a range of user led solutions.
They offer services to local government and organisations wanting more information about this condition.
They also manage the Tomorrow Project which is a support structure for people who have suicidal thoughts.
Childline helps anyone under 19 in the UK with any Mental Health issues. You can talk to the confidential team through a free helpline or by their online 1-2-1 counsellor chat. You can speak to them in English or Welsh and there is someone available day or night.
NSHN are a forum based organisation that support people who self harm and the people that care for them in the UK.
They engage people in open and honest discussion and provide the right information and agencies who can support them further. The forum is managed and closely monitored 24/7
LifeSigns are a user led charity that provide support and guidance for people who self injure themselves. They run and monitor a forum for people to be able to discuss how they are feeling and get feedback from other people in similar situations.
They also a variety of techniques and guidance strategies for young people.
OTHER SOURCES OF HELP....
Here are some other places you can find help, information and support. They may not be specific to self harming but as broader mental health charities, they'll have lots of help that you might find really useful.
If you're under 25 you can talk to The Mix for free on the phone, by email or on their webchat. You can also use their phone counselling service, or get more information on support services you might need.
The Children's Society offer a variety of services to support children and young people with Mental Health issues, mostly they are at regular drop in services around the UK. Centres offer support and counselling.
CAMHS is part of the NHS mental health services, specifically dedicated to children and young people in England. They can provide a range of services and people to help including help from psychiatrists, psychologists, support workers, nurses and occupational therapists.
You may need a referral from someone who works with your child, often a general practitioner (GP), teacher or social worker. However, some clinics also accept self-referrals from young people or parents and carers.
Rethink will guide you to Mental Health Support Services in the UK or information through their helpline (restricted hours) or online information service. They have lots of useful guides about how to maintain good Mental health and who to ask for support when you need it.
Student Minds run groups so that students experiencing mental health difficulties have access to a supportive environment in which they can talk about life, university and what they are doing to keep their lives on track.
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